Memories against Oblivion

Those that know say there are two deaths. The first is your physical death, when your heart stops beating. The second is when the last person that remembers you forgets. The first is called death, the second is oblivion. Fear of oblivion drives many who realize that our passage on earth is brief. They build monuments, make works of art or have lots of children. Henry was so alive, its hard to imagine that he thought about death. But the fact he removed himself from this world reveals what he was hiding from all of us. He felt alone and un-appreciated. He was unable to feel the love we all had for him. He had a  blindness to the impact he had on other people. What a huge mistake……..and we are living with the consequences. All we can do now is enjoy our memories, luckily so many in only 7,220 days, and share them. That way Henry’s oblivion will never come.

I look forward to hearing from you and sharing in this Museum your Henry stories and adventures.

But before I sign off I have to say a few more words about Henry’s mistake. There are no questions we can ask ourselves, be they about loneliness, depression, stress, illness or pain, to which the answer is suicide. If you are in that place, reach out. If you think someone you know is in that place, reach out to them. We are all each other’s safety net. Hopefully part of Henry’s legacy can be an awareness of the power of community and the shared responsibility that comes with being part of one.

Christophe Armero. Father of Henry.

  1. JennieB121 - October 11, 2013 3:45 am

    Thank you for this beautiful message and for creating a place for us to share.

  2. Rebecca Bauer - October 14, 2013 7:37 pm

    This is really beautiful.

  3. Kaki Field Ellenthal - October 15, 2013 9:48 pm

    Henry’s death saved my daughter’s life. And she is working to help others who are in that dark place find hope. Lex started a group called You Never Know Who. Look for it on Facebook, Indiegogo, and YouTube. She can be reached at YNKWGHS@gmail.com. Henry’s memory is part of our family’s past, present, and future. This site is beautiful.

  4. Carlota Pracana - December 8, 2013 10:40 pm

    Such beautiful text.


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